Why don’t we get to know each other before it’s too late?

It’s late at night, and I’m deep down. Two questions are bothering me. I don’t know their answers. And in my case, they’re related.

(1) Why is it when a difficult situation  arises in First Life, people leave Second Life? We’re talking a biggie here, like a health crisis, death of a loved one, dissolution of a longterm relationship, loss of a job.

(2) Why is it when we only know someone in the virtual form, we so rarely scratch the surface to really get to know that person–what gets them up in the morning, how they spend their time, and oh so very especially: what troubles them and bothers their sleep? I’m not talking about barging into the avie’s First Life–just really getting to know them as they are.

I’m so tired. But I had to get the questions out. If you ask them, answers come. Maybe even from you. Does anyone know?

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    Posted by David Glendinning on 21.09.11 at 11:13 pm

    Bay — in my case it was a question of my partner having issues with the *virtual* aspect of SL. There was, and is, no problem with me having online friends – I have close to 200 friends on FB, of which I’d say about 30% of them are close enough to have regular conversations with (not just random high school people I barely knew way back then). and out of those there are maybe 10 people I make contact with nearly every day.

    But she *did* have a problem with me entering a “make-believe” world to garner more friends that I might not ever have a RL relationship with, among other things. And because I love her that much, I will respect her feelings and desires.

    Do I miss SL — yes. Enough to leave my RL relationships? Well… no. But I’m still here online (obviously!) and I’m open to cultivating the friendships I made in SL as well as new ones. Just in RL. (That may not be the answer you wanted to hear, but it’s the one I have to give.)

    I did like the second question above… that is something that sort of bothered ME about SL. I’ve been able to make the transition to RL with some of my SL friends, and it’s been a wonderful experience.

    But the beginning of that getting-to-know-each-other-process will have to wait until some other day… I’m late for bed ’cause I have to be to work for an early shift tomorrow… and I need all the strength I can get for a busy Saturday in the world of retail. *sigh*


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